Our Practices
Foundational practices for embodying and expressing The Experience of We
Developing Interoception Together
A quick start guide
Before we can name what we feel, we have to sense it.
Interoception is the body's inner sensing. The tightness in the chest that arrives before we've named it as anxiety. The heaviness that settles into the limbs before we've called it sadness. The warmth that spreads through the torso before we've recognized it as safety. This information is always streaming, but most of us have learned to ignore it. We live from the neck up, attending to thoughts while the body's signals go unread.
This matters for relationship because we can only share what we can perceive. "How are you feeling?" becomes a genuinely hard question when we don't have access to what the body is telling us. We default to "fine" or "I don't know," not because we're hiding, but because we genuinely can't sense what's there.
Developing interoception is like adjusting a dial. The signal was always broadcasting. We're learning to tune in. And when two people can sense their own inner worlds with clarity, they have something real to share with each other.
One practice to try
Think of a person in your life who’s open to experimentation, and invite them into trying something new with you.
The body check-in
Sit together for a few minutes. No agenda. Just sensing.
Close your eyes and soften your gaze. Take a few slow breaths together to settle.
Scan your body. Start anywhere. Notice what's there. Tightness? Warmth? Heaviness? Openness? Don't interpret. Just sense.
Find one sensation and stay with it. Where is it? What is its quality? Is it moving or still? Warm or cool? Does it have edges?
Share what you noticed. Use sensation words, not emotion labels. "There's a tightness in my shoulders" rather than "I'm stressed." "Something warm in my chest" rather than "I'm happy."
Receive each other’s sharing with curiosity. No fixing, no interpreting. Just "thank you for sharing that."
This practice builds the perceptual muscle that makes everything else in relational life clearer. Start with what's most obvious. The subtler signals will come with time.
The full guide, Developing Interoception Together, has several practices for building inner sensing: body scanning together, naming sensations with precision, tracking sensation during conversation, sensing the relational space, and more. It also explores why so many of us are somatically disconnected, what becomes possible when that connection returns, and how interoception is the foundation for everything from emotional clarity to co-regulation.
The body is always speaking. We're learning to listen.
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