Our Practices
Foundational practices for embodying and expressing The Experience of We
Developing Awareness Together
A quick start guide
Between us, there’s always something happening. A quality. A temperature.
We notice the big things. A fight. A moment of deep warmth. A cold shoulder. But the subtler shifts pass by unregistered. The slight coolness that appeared when we changed topics. The openness that showed up when we sat down together after a long day. The way something tightened between us when we talked about money.
Awareness is the practice of noticing what's actually happening in the space between us. Not analyzing it, not trying to fix it. Just sensing. The way you walk into a room and feel the temperature before you think about it. The relational field has a temperature too. It's warm or cool, open or closed, flowing or stuck. We can learn to feel it.
This is where the deeper relational work begins. Before we can work with anything between us, we have to be able to sense it. And that sensing is a capacity we develop, like any skill. Some days it's sharp. Some days it's cloudy. The practice continues.
One practice to try
Think of a person in your life who’s open to experimentation, and invite them into trying something new with you.
The field sensing check-in
Settle together. A few breaths. A shared pause.
Turn your attention to the space between you. Not to yourself, not to the other person specifically, but to the quality of what exists between you right now.
Sense without analyzing. Is there warmth? Coolness? Openness? Guardedness? Ease? Strain? Stay with the sensation rather than jumping to interpretation.
Share what you notice. Simple language. "I notice some warmth between us." "There's a tightness I'm sensing." "The field feels open." Share as perception, not as fact.
Receive each other’s sensing. Don't debate it. You might sense different things. Both can be real.
Notice if anything shifted. Sometimes bringing awareness to the field changes the field. Notice that too.
This practice takes two minutes. Try it before dinner tonight. Or at the start of a conversation that matters. Notice what becomes visible when you look at the space between you.
The full guide, Developing Awareness Together, has several practices for building shared sensitivity to the relational field: sensing through the body, tracking transitions, developing background awareness, sensing the field during difficulty, and more. It also explores what awareness requires, what blocks it, and how this capacity becomes the perceptual foundation for all the relational work that follows.
The field between us is always communicating. Let us learn to listen together.
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