Our Practices
Foundational practices for embodying and expressing The Experience of We
Creating Together
A quick start guide
When we create together, we bring something into being that didn't exist before. Something neither of us could have made alone.
A meal cooked together. A garden planted. A room rearranged. A project built. The relationship itself, continually created and recreated. This is more than collaboration. It's generativity. The act of adding something new to the world through our combined presence and effort.
In creating together, we discover how we work with each other. Our rhythms, our conflicts, our complementarities. We learn to negotiate vision and execution, to hold the tension between my idea and yours, to yield and assert and blend. The process is relationship in action.
What we create also creates us. We're shaped by our collaborations, marked by what we've made together. Shared creations become part of our story. This is what emerged from us.
One practice to try
Think of a person in your life who’s open to experimentation, and invite them into trying something new with you.
Make something small together
Choose a project that can be started and completed in one sitting. Something simple. Something fun.
Choose together. Cook a meal from scratch. Rearrange a room. Build something. Plant something. Write a letter together. It doesn't have to be art. It just has to be made by both of you.
Share the process. Don't divide and conquer. Stay in contact. Negotiate. "What if we tried this?" "I see it differently." "Let's do it your way and see."
Notice the dynamics. Who leads? Who follows? Where does friction arise? Where does flow happen? The process reveals things about how you work together.
Finish it. Completion matters. Admire what you made. "We did this together." Let the shared creation be real.
Talk about the process. "What was that like?" "Where did we click? Where did we struggle?" The conversation is as valuable as the creation.
One small thing, made together. Notice what emerges between you when you create rather than just maintain.
The full guide, Creating Together, has several practices for developing shared generativity:
Finding what you create well together
Working with creative tension
Navigating differences in vision and style
Making co-creation a living part of your relationship
And more
It also explores why creating together is relationship at its most alive.
What we create together becomes part of who we are. Let’s create, together.
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