Our Practices
Foundational practices for embodying and expressing The Experience of We
Resting Together
A quick start guide
Not all togetherness is active. Some of the deepest connection happens when we're doing nothing at all.
We live in a world that celebrates doing. We bond over activities. We connect through conversation. We fill our time together with plans, projects, and processing. All of this is valuable. But there's another way of being together that we often overlook: resting.
Resting together is presence without performance. Being in the same space, not talking, not doing. Just existing alongside each other. The companionable silence that needs no filling. Stillness shared.
There's a particular intimacy in being able to rest with someone. It means we don't have to entertain them. We don't have to be interesting or productive. We can simply be, and they can simply be, and that's enough. This acceptance of each other's bare existence is a form of love.
One practice to try
Think of a person in your life who’s open to experimentation, and invite them into trying something new with you.
The shared stillness
Find a space. Sit together. And do nothing. For fifteen minutes.
No phones. No books. No screens. No agenda. Just being in the same space.
Let silence be. Don't fill it. Don't fidget. Let the quiet settle between you.
Notice what happens. The body may settle. The mind may quiet. Something between you may soften. Or it may feel awkward at first. That's fine too.
If restlessness arises, notice it. Don't obey it. Just feel it. The discomfort of doing nothing is itself information.
When the time is up, share a few works. "That was nice." "I feel calmer." "I didn't know I needed that." Keep it simple.
Fifteen minutes of shared stillness. No doing. No performing. Just being together and letting that be enough.
The full guide, Resting Together, has several practices for developing shared stillness:
Creating space for rest
Working with the discomfort of doing nothing
Finding the rhythm of rest alongside activity
Building a shared vocabulary for inviting rest
And more
It also explores why rest is not a luxury but a necessity, why companionable silence is a form of intimacy, and what becomes possible when we stop performing and simply exist together.
Sometimes the deepest connection is no connection at all. Just being here. Together. Let that be enough.
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