Relationship Design
Every relationship — friendships, partnerships, families, chosen kin — is a living system with its own needs, rhythms, and constraints. When those systems are left to habit alone, even loving relationships can drift into misalignment or strain.
Relationship Design is a collaborative, medium to long-term process that treats your relationship as something that can be consciously shaped. Rather than applying generic rules or ideals, we work with the specific people involved, the realities of your lives, and the relational field that exists between you.
Together, we help you clarify shared values, design meaningful practices, and create agreements that can hold change over time. This may include redefining roles, establishing rhythms of connection, building conflict-repair pathways, or re-anchoring the relationship around what truly matters now.
This work is not about fixing what’s broken. It’s about giving relationships the structure and care they need to remain alive, adaptive, and mutually nourishing — as the people within them continue to grow and change.
Creating Reciprocity
The Experience of We is rooted in mutual care, integrity, and sustainability. We want this work to be accessible to those who feel genuinely called. And we also need it to be regenerative for us as human beings doing this work long-term.
For now, reciprocity most often takes the form of financial investment. Rather than fixed pricing, we work with a sliding scale that reflects both the value of the offering and each person’s level of financial sovereignty. We seek an investment that holds those we work with in integrity: something that feels significant enough to reflect the value of the offering while also remaining holistically sustainable for their lives.
This isn’t as simple as “paying for a service.” It’s about participating in a balanced exchange, one that honors the time, care, and depth of what’s being offered, while remaining attuned to the realities of your life.
Over time, we hope The Experience of We can grow into a living system where reciprocity flows in many forms. For now, we begin where we are: with clarity, consent, and shared responsibility for the health of the relational field we’re entering together.