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Felt Sense
We experience felt sense as our body’s immediate, pre-verbal awareness of what’s happening in and around us.
It’s not an emotion, a thought, or an interpretation — it’s the raw, living signal beneath those layers.
In The Experience of We, felt sense names how we notice relational reality before it’s named, explained, or defended against.
What felt sense actually is
Felt sense is an embodied information stream.
It arises as:
Subtle shifts in tension or ease
Changes in breath, posture, or temperature
A sense of openness, contraction, resonance, or friction
An intuitive “something’s off” or “this is right” before words appear
Felt sense is how our nervous system tracks truth in real time — prior to narrative.
How felt sense feels
When we’re attuned to our felt sense, we often notice:
Difficulty putting it into words at first
A slow, fuzzy, or symbolic quality
A sense of direction rather than certainty
Relief when it’s acknowledged, even silently
Felt sense doesn’t shout. It waits — until we listen.
Felt sense isn’t intuition-as-certainty
Felt sense does not mean:
Immediate clarity or conclusions
Being “right” about what it means
Acting without reflection
Treating sensation as instruction
We orient to our felt sense is data — not a decision.
Felt sense in relational fields and We Spaces
In relational contexts, our felt sense helps us:
Detect misattunement before conflict happens
Notice safety or threat before narratives develop
Stay oriented to the relational field rather than dissonance
Slow meaning-making to match reality
Shared awareness of a felt sense is one of the foundations of attunement.
Why felt sense matters in The Experience of We
We emphasize felt sense because:
Relational signals register in our body first
Ignoring our felt sense can lead to delayed rupture
Co-regulation depends on embodied awareness
Living systems speak before they explain
Felt sense is where honesty begins — before language makes it polite.
Our one-sentence synthesis
We experience felt sense as the body’s pre-verbal awareness of relational reality, offering early signals of alignment, safety, and truth before they can be named or interpreted.
