Our Practices
Foundational practices for embodying and expressing The Experience of We
Exploring Spirituality Together
A quick start guide
Underneath all the different expressions — prayer, meditation, ceremony, contemplation, silence — there’s one underlying experience with many voices. Something in us recognizes that we are inside something larger. Something in us wants to be in right relationship with it. That impulse, whatever we call it, is not weakness or wishful thinking. It's a faculty.
Spirituality, as we use the word, is not what we believe about the sacred. It is how we relate to what is larger than us. A doctrine is fixed; a relationship is alive. A doctrine tells you what to think; a relationship asks you to show up, to listen, to be changed. We're interested in the relationship.
And something different happens when that relationship is held between two people rather than inside one. Two people turning together toward what they can't fully explain, holding what they find between them, letting the relational field be the container for encounters with mystery — this is ancient, and this is available, and it starts with being willing to notice when something feels significant and saying so.
One practice to try
Think of a person in your life who’s open to experimentation, and invite them into trying something new with you.
Naming moments of meaning
For one week, pay attention to when something feels significant beyond its surface. Then share it.
Notice when something stops you. A moment of unexpected beauty. A feeling of rightness that exceeds logic. A depth of tenderness that has no obvious cause. A sense of "this matters" without explanation. Don't rush past the experience.
Let it register without explaining it. You don't need to know what the moment means. Just feel it. Let it land in the body before the mind takes over with categories and interpretations.
Tell your companion. "Something about this moment feels important and I can't say why." "I had a feeling today that I want to tell you about." Bring the experience into shared space, even imperfectly. Especially imperfectly.
Receive what they share. When your partner names something like this, listen without explaining, diagnosing, or dismissing. Don't say "that's just your brain doing X." Receive it as an offering. Let it exist between you.
Let it be enough. Not every experience of meaning needs to become a theological conversation. Sometimes the naming is the whole practice. Something was felt. It was shared. It's held between you now.
The spiritual dimension doesn't require mountaintops or monasteries. It's available in the ordinary — a particular quality of light, the sound of rain, the way your partner's face looks when they're lost in thought. It's been here all along. We just have to notice, and share what we notice.
The full guide, Exploring Spirituality Together, has several practices for turning toward what is larger:
Shared silence oriented toward listening beyond the personal
Holding mystery without collapsing into certainty or dismissal
Grounding spiritual experience in the body
Co-creating meaning through dialogue
Practicing discernment between opening and inflation
Cultivating gratitude and reverence
Returning to the big questions across the arc of a life
And more
It also explores what spirituality actually is as a human capacity, what distorts it, and why holding spiritual experience in a relational field changes everything about how it integrates.
Right here, in this breath, we are already inside what we are seeking. Let’s explore — together.
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